Getting wet during sex is normal and it can be a good thing. However, if you find yourself wet during penetration more than once in a row it could be a sign of an infection like yeast or bacterial vaginosis.
Lubrication during sex is primarily generated by your Bartholin glands and Skene glands. This can be enhanced with foreplay and sexual activity.
1. You’re sexually aroused
When you’re sexually aroused, your body experiences a series of physical responses that make it feel good. These can include erections, vaginal secretion, and a rise in blood flow to the genitals. Arousal also includes a psychological response that makes you feel turned on. The key thing to remember is that your arousal doesn’t necessarily have to be linked with an orgasm. It’s possible to be very wet while still not feeling orgasmic. This is particularly common in women, who can often experience discordance between their mental and physical arousal.
Wetness during sex can be caused by many things, including the release of lubrication from your Bartholin glands and Skene glands (located in the opening of your vagina and the urethra respectively). This wetness is designed to make it easier for you to engage with your partner and increase your pleasure, but it’s not always an indicator of how aroused you are.
However, if you find yourself getting wet all the time and not feeling orgasmic, then it’s likely that something else is going on in your mind or in your body. This could be related to issues within your relationship or could be a sign of a medical issue that requires the help of your doctor. If this is the case, then discussing it with your partner and addressing any issues may help you get back to enjoying sex.
2. You’re lubricated
During sexual arousal, blood flow increases to the genitals and the vulva and clitoris lubricate themselves. This lubrication comes from several sources, including bartholin and skene gland secretions, cervical mucus, vaginal fluid seeping in through the walls of the vagina, and even sweat and oil glands! During sexual arousal, all of these fluids are turned on high-drive.
However, some people’s bodies don’t lubricate as much as others’. This can be due to various reasons, including hormonal fluctuations (such as during ovulation or menstruation) or certain medications. It can also be the result of lifestyle factors, such as a diet low in fruits and vegetables, or environmental factors, such as dehydration.
If you are not wet down there, try lubing up with an organic personal lubricant that contains no toxic chemicals and is condom friendly. You should also consider increasing the amount of time you spend on foreplay before penetration to allow your body to properly lubricate.
If you still don’t feel wet enough, talk to your doctor. Some prescription and over-the-counter medications, such as antidepressants, anti-anxiety drugs, and blood thinners, can interfere with sexual arousal and prevent vaginal lubrication. If you’re in the early stages of menopause, hormone therapy may be able to help relieve symptoms such as dryness. If you’ve had a hysterectomy, it’s possible that your hormone levels have changed so that you no longer produce the same amount of lubrication.
3. You’re not using a condom
If you aren’t using a condom when you’re having sex, you are putting yourself at risk for STIs. You could be at risk for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections, as well as unplanned pregnancies.
Condoms may not be as pleasurable as squirting or rubbing a woman’s vulva, but they’re the best way to protect against STIs. You can help increase the sensation of a condom by putting lube on it. Make sure to use a condom-friendly lubricant and to put it on before you start having sex. You can also try placing a textured condom inside the other condom to create more friction during penetration.
A condom is most effective when it’s inserted while the penis is erect. It’s important to gently pinch the tip of the condom (the teat) and leave a half inch space for semen to collect. If the condom is faulty in any way, it may leak or break, so be sure to replace it.
It’s a good idea to talk to your partner about how much they like or don’t like the sensation of a condom. They can then choose whether to continue doing sex without protection or ask for a different kind of pleasure, such as squirting or rubbing. They can also discuss if there is anything else they would like to try in order to reduce their wetness during sex.
4. You’re not lubricated enough
Getting too wet in the vagina can cause friction, which isn’t good for either you or your partner. If you’re experiencing this, try using a lubricant that increases friction such as a textured one, or try rubbing the outside of your penis against the inside of your thigh. You could also try having him rub a different part of his body against yours (while you’re on all fours, or on top) to create more friction and increase sensation.
Vaginal discharge is not only normal, it’s essential to maintain a healthy vagina. However, not everyone has a lot of it and that can be frustrating during sex. Vaginal discharge can vary in color, consistency and smell and if you don’t have a lot of it, you may not be as well lubricated during sex as you would like to be.
Certain medications can interfere with lubrication and cause you to be dryer than usual. This can include antihistamines, Accutane and other acne medications, antidepressants, birth control pills and others. If you’re experiencing this, talk to your doctor about changing your medication or adjusting the dosage. Also, if you’re breastfeeding, your hormones can decrease your lubrication. This is temporary, and should return to normal once you stop breastfeeding. [3]