For a lot of people, giving head is the most fun part of oral sex. But giving a great blowjob can be challenging. Here are some tips to help you give your guy intense pleasure.
Make sure your mouth is lubed up. And lick or tease him before you start sucking his cock. It’ll make it even sexier.
1. Start with a Kiss
The first thing that most women forget when they want to give a good blow job is that foreplay is just as important as giving head. [1] Men love foreplay more than most women realize, so taking a slow and methodical approach is the best way to make sure that your man gets as much pleasure as possible.
One way to do this is by gently licking his cock all over. This not only feels great but can also cause him to arouse by stimulating his glans and the frenulum of his penis. It’s also a great idea to play with different tongue shapes while you’re doing this. Try making them wide and flat on the shaft or tight and pointy on the tip, both of which will increase his sensitivity.
You can even use your hands to explore other erogenous zones like his glans and testicles, but always be sure that you’re doing it in a position where both of you are comfortable and don’t feel pressured into anything that doesn’t make you happy. Remember, it’s not your responsibility to satisfy your partner and if you’re feeling uncomfortable you can always talk it out or ask him to stop.
2. Make Him Cump
There are a lot of ways to make him cump — you can lick, suck, stroke, brush, and even blow on it. You can also massage it and gently tease it. This is a huge source of pleasure for many men and it can help to build up to taking their dick in your mouth.
One way to do this is by using the 69 position (read our Sex Positions Guide here). Another great technique is called “the kiss trail,” where you slowly kiss your man down from his lips to his neck, chest, belly, and even down to his groin. This can be a very slow, drawn out build up that makes him want to go faster and is an intensely satisfying experience for both of you.
You can also play with his dick before taking it in your mouth by flicking it up and down, side to side, or in circles. You can also gently lick his frenulum (the very tip of the penis) and softly tickle the balls of his testicles.
3. Make Him Squirm
The thing about giving a blow job is that it’s kind of like the wild west of sex acts: it’s all about instinct and what feels good. Some guys love to be sucked on, while others prefer to just have their member gently grazed and teased for minutes before they take it into their mouths.
One of the best things you can do to make your man squirm in pleasure is to lick and lightly touch his sensitive areas, like his ears. He will love the feeling of your tongue on his ear canals, especially when you kiss and lightly suck them as well.
Another great place to lick him is his “F” spot, or the area where the head of his penis connects to the shaft. This is an extremely sensitive area that guys love to have licked, stroked, and even chewed on during oral sex. Just be sure to use a lot of lube to avoid irritation and dryness. You can also try gently stroking his crotch with your thumb and rubbing it between his toes – this is one of the most orgasmic things you can do during a blowjob for him.
4. Make Him Moan
One of the best things about giving head is hearing your man moan with pleasure. It shows that you’re delivering the most pleasure you can and that he’s loving every minute of it.
You can make him moan during your blow job by teasing his cock before you take it up. Gently kissing his cock and shaft is one way to tease him, but it’s also possible to spend a few minutes gently grazing the area and breathing on it. Licking his dick, too, can be super sexy and create a cool, wet patch that will feel even more pleasurable when you’re sucking on it later.
Just don’t overdo it, and remember that not all men like the same things. If he tells you that certain techniques turn him off or make him gag, don’t keep trying them. The key is finding what makes him happy and delivering it. Try new things but don’t be afraid to stick with what works. Oral sex is a big deal and you want to get it right.
5. Make Him Ejaculate
A great blowjob can feel so hot, and it’s a totally mutually satisfying sexual act. If you want to intensify it, try some of these techniques:
For starters, a little foreplay can help him get even hornier. [1] Whether you’re just texting dirty messages or sending him sexy pics, try to start getting him horny at least a day before you meet up. That way, when you see him he’ll be eager and ready for oral sex.
Another way to build up anticipation for a BJ is to try some exotic positions. A 69 position can be super hot, or you can try straddling him in the crouching position and then lower yourself into his mouth as he licks your cock.
To prevent him from triggering your gag reflex, try starting your blowjob by placing a hand under the base of his penis. Then, slowly take him into your mouth and lick, stroke, and gently touch his head and shaft. Vary the pressure and speed, as well as your depth of penetration, to keep it exciting for both of you.